Kamla Bolanos:
Appears to function more like a social-media-era attribution than a documented author — the kind of name that gets attached to a resonant, anonymous-origin quote as it spreads through Tumblr/Pinterest/Goodreads, rather than someone with a traceable published body of work. I can’t confirm whether it refers to a real specific individual who actually wrote it.
Please be patient with me. Sometimes when I’m quiet it’s because I need to figure myself out. It’s not because I don’t want to talk. Sometimes there are no words for my thoughts.
The quote asks for patience during silence rather than having that silence read as distance or disinterest. Its core ideas:
– Quiet isn’t withdrawal from the relationship — it’s often internal processing (“figuring myself out”).
– It pushes back on the assumption that quietness means someone doesn’t want to talk.
– It names something true about emotional experience: some thoughts or feelings genuinely resist language before they’re fully worked out, so a person may not be able to explain themselves yet — not because they’re hiding something, but because the words simply aren’t there.
It’s commonly shared around themes of introversion, introspection, and communicating a need for space to a partner or friend.
Origin:
I couldn’t trace a verified original source — no dated book, article, or interview where this line first appeared. It circulates mainly through quote-aggregator sites (Goodreads and similar quote-sharing/reposting platforms), which is typical of quotes that spread through social media: a line gets attached to a name and reposted widely, but the actual first appearance (a blog, a caption, a private note) often isn’t traceable.
Author:
The quote is consistently attributed to Kamla Bolanos across these quote sites. However, I found no evidence of a published work, biography, or other public presence tied to that name — it doesn’t appear to correspond to a known author, public figure, or book. So while the attribution is consistent, I can’t independently verify who this person is or confirm they’re the true original source.
